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If you want to be free you must unapologetically be yourself!
There’s no way around it. That’s just the way it is so why are you fighting it? You came to earth as a one of a kind amazing human being but societal domestication started taking over the minute you came out of your mother’s womb.
Some of us manage to escape at least some of the societal brainwashing that takes place but the rest of us are slow to evolve and others never feel comfortable showing the world who they truly are.
Your soul is begging you to stop stuffing down your passions and your gifts that were given to you as you grew in your mother’s womb. You’ve been in the box of conformity for far too long.
I understand your dilemma. I once felt like I had to go along to get along. My soul was crying out for help and I spent many years ignoring her. After my 19-year marriage ended I had no choice but to figure it out but I didn’t have a clue who the hell I was.
I had defined myself as a wife, mother, sister, daughter and friend for so long that’s all I knew but who was I really? Those were just labels given to me by society.
The pain of conforming was squeezing me into a tiny little box and I couldn’t figure out how to get out of it.
That is until the day that I bought a new bed after leaving my ex-husband. I rented a large townhouse and sold my old bed. Sleeping on the floor for a few days wasn’t a problem; I was just excited to decorate my first Master bedroom as a single woman.
The mattress delivery date was set. I sat at home all day waiting for my new pillow top mattress to arrive. As the clock neared 6:00 p.m. I worried that I was going to be spending the weekend on the floor.
I was o.k. with a couple of days but not with spending the weekend on the floor. I had plans! As I called the furniture store to track down my new mattress I learn that it was delivered to the wrong person and that they were going to pick it up and return it to the warehouse, not to me. I was ANGRY and I was going to give them a piece of my mind.
For years I bit my tongue and never pushed past the comfort zone line that was set in my marriage. I spent all that precious time keeping the peace but not anymore!
What are you doing to keep the peace?
I jumped in my car and sped off to the furniture store to figure out how I was going to get my new mattress.
I rushed into the store, stomped over to the customer service counter determined to fix this situation. I met resistance and a nonchalant attitude from the woman I spoke to as she greeted me. Learning that I would have to reorder the mattress and start the process over released an explosion from my mouth! I went off! Then the manager came to my rescue. He worked out an amazing discount and my new mattress arrived an hour later.
I had finally spoken up for myself!! The good girl I had been for the past 40+ years had finally turned into the outspoken badass woman I had always been inside.
It’s taken me more than 10 years of start and stop to finally be comfortable being unapologetically myself. I’m finally free!
Here are 6 Steps to help you Free Your Soul
- Meditate – Sitting in stillness will allow the voices that you’ve been ignoring rise up.
- Follow Your Instinct – it doesn’t matter if anyone else get’s it! Your soul is speaking to you so don’t be afraid to listen and take action
- Forgive Yourself – look at all the things you feel you should have said yes to and didn’t then take a look at the things you said no to and should have said yes. Now let it go and start all over again this time take the direction your soul is leading you in.
- Follow Your Joy – if it brings you joy do it! No excuses just do it and keep following that path.
- Take baby steps – I call them soul steps. Keep moving and stop worrying about what people think.
- Use your voice – say what you mean and mean what you say!
If you peek around you may have noticed this is my first blog post in over a year. I was stuck. I was frustrated. Notice I said was. I’m now taped into my soul and I’m not turning back.
I hope you’ll be inspired to do the same.